by Cynthia Lord

Catherine just wants her family to be normal, but her brother, David, has autism and just can't seem to keep all the many rules that Catherine has made for him. She loves her brother, but she's also tired of feeling embarrassed by his actions.

Then, that summer she meets two new friends--a girl her age that has just moved in next door and a disabled boy who goes to the same therapy as her brother.

As these friendships develop, she learns some unexpected things about herself and others, and begins to ask herself if being normal is what's most important after all.

Children and adults alike really enjoy this book (as evidence--over 100 Amazon customers have reviewed the book, giving it an average of 4.5 stars.) It's the kind of book that you don't want to put down.

There is clearly a lesson in this story, but it's subtly conveyed, never preachy. Lord does an excellent job of compassionately portraying the conflicted emotions of the main character. Her protective instinct and love for her brother is evident, but so is her desperate wish for him to just be 'normal'. We give this book 'two thumbs up', for adults and middle grade readers alike. School Library Journal called Rules by Cynthia Lord, "lovely, warm read, a great discussion starter."

Reading Levels
Interest Level:  Grade3-7             DRA Level:  40             Lexile Measure:  780L
Grade Level Equiv: 4.5               Guided Reading:  R

Awards & Rating
   -  Newbery Honor 2007
   -  American Library Association Notable Children's Book

Related Activity
In the book, one of the characters is unable to speak and uses a book full of pictures to communicate with others. The main character makes friends with this person and starts drawing more pictures for his book. For an end-of-book assignment, have students make picture cards for themes/ideas and events from the book. (The themes/ideas would obviously be harder than events, but it's just an opportunity for students to get creative.) Examples of topics for cards:

-Themes/Ideas -- friendship, disabilities, acceptance, family love...
-Events -- the dance, walking at the beach, drawing, swimming in the pond, toys in the fish tank...

You could either give them a handout with a set amount of squares on it, or have them make cardstock squares (like the character in the book did) and then glue them down on a paper.

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